Reframe & Master My Mindsets
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Reframe & Master My Mindsets

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Growth vs Fixed Mindset

“When you enter a mindset, you enter a new world. In one world—the world of fixed traits—success is about proving you’re smart or talented. Validating yourself. In the other—the world of changing qualities—it’s about stretching yourself to learn something new. Developing yourself.

In one world, failure is about having a setback. Getting a bad grade. Losing a tournament. Getting fired. Getting rejected. It means you’re not smart or talented. In the other world, failure is about now growing. Not reaching for the things you value. It means you’re not fulfilling your potential.

In one world, effort is a bad thing. It, like failing, means you’re not smart or talented. If you were, you wildly ended effort. In the other world, effort is what makes you smart or talented.

You have a choice. mindsets are just beliefs. They’re powerful beliefs, but they’re just something in your mind, and you can change your mind.” —Carol Dweck, Mindset

➊  Identify the fixed mindset “voice”

Whenever we’re not feeling 100%, we can usually trace it back to some sort of setback, conflict, disagreement, or disappointment. Let’s go over 5 scenarios below! For the best results, take the time to think back to specific memories and write down your default mental response. 🌿

Stuck? Pop me open for examples!
When facing...
I tell myself...
Challenges
Am I sure I can do it? What if I fail and everyone sees?
Failure
Yup, I’m a loser. I’ve known this all along. Great I just wasted my time, might as well quit while I’m head
Conflicts
Everyone hates me. I’m not a lovable person
Criticism
It’s not my fault. Who do you think you are? You don’t know me. Don’t tell me what to do
Mistakes
Wow I’m so dumb. I can’t ever do anything right.

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Mindset

When facing...I tell myself...
Challenges
Failure
Conflicts / feeling left out
Criticism / disagreements
Mistakes / something I did wrong

➋ Recognize you have a choice

Now that we know how we talk to ourselves:

Am I happy with how I'm talking to myself?

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Is how I’m currently talking to myself serving me well?

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➌ Shift from fixed to growth

Having identified our fixed mindset voices and realized that they may not have been serving us all that well, this next step is about shifting our fixed mindset voices to growth mindset voices:

Stuck? Pop me open for examples!
When facing...
I tell myself...
Let’s reframe to...
Challenges
Am I sure I can do it? What if I fail and everyone sees?
When I’m seeking external validation, that is precisely when I need to remind myself I’ve been too focused on the destination (vs the journey). Go for it. Make it happen. You may trip and fall along the way but that’s a beautiful part of the ~journey~ Onward! Pursue your dreams!!!
Failure
Yup, I’m a loser. I’ve known this all along. Great I just wasted my time, might as well quit while I’m head
Time spent learning is never time wasted. Not being the best at this right away doesn’t feel great but let’s see if I can approach it from a different angle. What can I work on? How can I improve? Can I ask for feedback? You never know what’s on the other side of failure
Conflicts
Everyone hates me. I’m not a lovable person
Disagreements are never comfortable but that doesn’t mean I’m unworthy of love. This disagreement, in the grand scheme of things, is reversible so long as I’m open and willing to listen and communicate. Why look for friends or partners who will just butter up my self esteem instead of ones who will also challenge me to grow?
Criticism
It’s not my fault. Who do you think you are? You don’t know me. Don’t tell me what to do
Oof, this is uncomfortable. But let me try to listen and learn… If I don’t take responsibility, even if it’s not “my fault,” I can always improve
Mistakes
Wow I’m so dumb. I can’t ever do anything right.
Ok ok, this was my first time trying ____. There’s a chance I could’ve nailed it the first try but there’s also a big chance I couldn’t have. At least I’m challenging myself and trying! Now, what can I learn from this? Could I ask anyone for help in the future?

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Mindset

When facing...I tell myself...Let's reframe our mindset to...
Challenges
Failure
Conflicts / feeling left out
Criticism / disagreements
Mistakes / something I did wrong

➍ Choose what you’d like to work on

Of all the fixed voices, whether it’s the one you hear the most or one you’d want to work on, what is the most important mindset you’d like to reframe? Check it below & move on to the last step:

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Mindset

⭐️When facing...I tell myself...Let's reframe our mindset to...
Criticism / disagreements
Mistakes / something I did wrong
Failure
Challenges
Conflicts / feeling left out

❺ Put it into action

What can you do to remind yourself to put this shift into action?

Examples
  • Keep a daily or weekly journal on challenges you faced, what your initial response was, and how you either reframed, or tried to reframe, your fixed mindset to growth
  • Put up a post-it note with the reframe
  • Schedule monthly check-in to reflect on progress

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Mindset

When facing...I tell myself...Let's reframe our mindset to...Actionable steps
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Take a moment to implement the actionable steps you just created for the mindset you’d like to reframe. Call it a day here, or continue onto: 3️⃣Find My Values & Set Intentions